A year ago I ended a relationship with the woman I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with.
When I first met her she was so lovely and kind. We clicked despite difficult circumstances. We seemed to be on the same wave length and barely had a moment of silence with all of our talking.
I fell in love, head over heels for a woman that would turn out to be very controlling.
After a while I noticed that she started to ask where I was going and who with every time I wasn’t with her. She would question my friendships saying that my friends “had an agenda”.
I couldn’t understand this but had tried so many times to reason with her that I gave up. I found myself seeing my friends and lying to her so that I didn’t have to explain myself.
I was at her beckon call. If she had time spare she would say to meet her. I would leave work early, cancel friends/family and not accept invitations in case she was free.
One day something completely changed and she started to have a go at me for not responding to texts when she knew I was at a friend’s house. She said I expected you home by 9pm (I live alone). So many things were going round in my mind and I realised that I had to finish the relationship.
I loved/love her but I can’t be with her if it means I won’t have a life of my own and will be controlled.
That was a year ago.
Today, after receiving numerous phone calls, messages, emails and unwanted visits to my home over the last year, I sent her an email asking her not to contact me as it is harassment and if she does I will contact the Police.
I have asked her not to contact me before. Let’s hope this time it works.
It has been and is very tough to leave the person you love and then keep them away.
There is help out there. Don’t hide away and put up with it. You are worth more than that.